Our sincere thanks to www.knowledgeformen.com for this guest post from columnist Andrew Ferebee.
Can you guess what Michael Jordan, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tony Robbins, and Bill Gates all have in common?
Sure, they’re all successful beyond most people’s wildest dreams. But, more importantly, they all achieved success by following a similar strategy.
They all had coaches who helped them accelerate their success and achieve their goals faster.
In recent years, internet marketers and sketchy “Gurus” have given the coaching industry a bad rap and most men have a completely warped and unrealistic view of what a coach is and how they can help you achieve your goals and dreams.
If you’re wondering, “Do I need a life coach?” I’m going to help you find the answer in this article.
I’m going to set the record straight explaining exactly what a life coach does and why you should hire a life coach to break through your biggest obstacles so you can achieve your big hairy audacious goals in life. Let’s begin:
What does a life coach do and why do I need a life coach?
While life coaches vary in their expertise, abilities, and specialties, I can tell you for a fact that a life coach is not:
- Someone who has all the answers to everything…
- A superhuman who has access to knowledge that you don’t…
- Someone you hire to achieve your goals for you…
If you see a coach making any of these claims… Run in the opposite direction. Hiring a life coach because you believe that they have all of the answers and can solve your biggest problems for you is a recipe for disaster.
Life coaches are simply professionally trained individuals who can see things that you can’t, hold you accountable to your word and help you achieve results faster.
And for men – your word is everything. That’s it.
Think about Michael Jordan.
Every year of his professional career, he had numerous coaches who helped him improve his game, overcome his weaknesses, and capitalize on his strengths. But were any of these coaches better at basketball than Michael?
Of course not!
His coach simply knew the game and he knew how to instruct Michael to have the right mindset and become a more powerful player.
And a life coach is the same way.
It’s not that they are better at life than you are, it’s simply that they can recognize patterns in your mindset, actions, and subconscious programming that you cannot.
And because they can see these patterns, they can help you overcome them so you can achieve your biggest goals in life.
When you have a coach you are acting and living in full alignment to what you value in most in life and move closer every day towards the man you want to become.
It’s that simple. So what are the signs that it might be time for you to hire a life coach?
Keep reading because this may be exactly what you’ve been looking for all this time.
1. You Feel Unsure of Your Purpose in Life
Have you been floating around life without any real aim or purpose in life? Have you struggled to find your “calling” or wasted years of your life pursuing the wrong things that don’t fulfill you?
The right coach will ask you powerful questions that will help you wake up to the realities of your life and consider potential paths that you had never imagined.
They will ask questions that will help guide you to understand who you are on a deeper level so that you can understand what you really want to do with your life.
A life coach can help you develop rock-solid certainty in your path and purpose in life so that you know with crystal clear clarity not only who you are, but who you want to be and where you want to go.
This will save you years of climbing up a ladder that is leaned up against the wrong wall and ultimately gives you a reason to wake up every day with passion and excitement.
A lost man is a leaf in the wind chasing approval from friends, family, society, and women for his entire life. A man on a mission is respected by high-value men and attractive to high-value women.
If you don’t have a vision, you need to get a life coach.
2. You Have a Huge Vision But You’re Unsure of How to Achieve It
Let’s say you have a clearly defined purpose that motivates you.
The only problem is that you’ve had that same vision and purpose since you were a kid and, 15-20 years later…. no real progress has been made and you don’t know how to achieve the ambitions you’ve set.
You’ve spent years going through the same motions, getting the same results (that is to say NO results), and feeling frustrated that you can’t motivate yourself to take action and become the man you’ve always wanted to be.
You feel like there are simply too many options and considerations to make and so you suffer from paralysis by analysis. You learn plenty but accomplish very little.
If this sounds like you, then hiring a life coach might the vaccine for your no-action-itis.
When you get a life coach, you will have access to decades of wisdom and experience that can help you cut through the b.s. and uncover the steps that you need to take to turn your dreams into your reality. With high-level accountability from your coach, you’ll be making consistent progress towards realizing your vision within weeks.
The life coach will put an end to talking about your vision and goals all day and help you turn them into a reality so you can live it.
3. You Have Struggled to Overcome the Same Addictions for Years
Have you been stuck in an endless cycle of addiction for years?
Maybe you’ve quit your specific addiction, whether it was smoking, alcohol, or drugs, several times only to revert back to it when things get hard and times become stressful?
Maybe you are addicted to something that seems innocuous like porn, video games, social media or TV but you know that it’s crippling your drive and holding you back from reaching your full potential.
Addictions steal your finite time away from, cost money and prevent you from living your best life. There is no benefit to an addiction that hurts your body and mind.
When you get a life coach, they will provide the heavy accountability that you need to break your addiction and finally achieve the freedom you’ve so desperately been searching for.
In fact, I have an employee who has been working with me since the earliest days of Knowledge for Men. He’s been a heavy smoker for almost two years and even though he would try to quit often, he would always fall back into the bad habit after a few weeks.
He decided to hire a coach several months ago and after his first session, he completely quit smoking and hasn’t had a single puff since. He now uses that extra time and money to move towards his goals. By hiring a coach he likely added a few years to his life.
What are your years worth to you?
4. Your B.S. Stories Stop You From Achieving Your Dreams
“I’m not good enough”
“There’s too much competition”
“She doesn’t want to date a guy like me”
“I was born poor so this is just my destiny”
“It’s genetics, there’s nothing I can do about it”
“Someone will just steal my idea”
If any of these statements sound familiar then you need to hire a life coach… Yesterday.
Philosophers from east to west have concluded that “Man is his own worst enemy” and most people fail to realize how true this is and the implications of this.
The biggest thing that you have to fear is not nuclear attacks, political unrest, or world war. The biggest thing that you have to fear stares back at you in the mirror every single day. You and you alone are both the greatest champion and the greatest enemy of your dreams and ambitions.
If you haven’t achieved your biggest goals, if you don’t have the body, the business, the relationships, and the spiritual connection that you’ve always wanted then there is only one person to blame… you.
There is always someone out there who had it worse than you and still gone on to achieve great things in their life, so there is no reason why you can’t too.
Just think about a few of the guests that I’ve had on this podcast.
- Grant Cardone: $50,000 in debt, addicted to drugs, unemployed, and unmotivated… Today is worth nearly $700,000,000 and is one of the most widely known and respected real estate and sales experts in the world
- Bedros Keulian: He was raised so poor that he literally had to dig through the garbage to find food and today he owns one of the largest fitness empires in the world that is worth
- T. Harv Eker: He was raised in a poor family and failed at every business he started. He was living with his parents without a dollar to his name and after he received one word of advice from a mentor, he became a multimillionaire in 2 years.
These stories and countless others clearly show that if other people can achieve greatness, it’s not an accident, it’s a science, and it’s something that is within your reach.
Your internal narratives and stories are one of the biggest traps holding you back from your dreams and the fastest way to overcome them is to identify them and work with a coach to rewire your brain to eliminate them.
This is where a life coach can unleash his most effective tool – deep internal mindset development.
The right coach can help you identify your b.s. stories and eradicate them from your subconscious mind for good so that you can get out of your own way and finally achieve the success you’ve always desired.
5. You Are Crippled by Stress, Anxiety, and Depression
Do you constantly feel overwhelmed, anxious, or depressed? Do you feel like your emotions are running your life?
Do you feel that you are one step away from a mental and physical breakdown? Then it’s time to hire a life coach.
When you are caught in an emotional rut, it can be difficult to accurately understand what’s causing your emotional problems and really get to the bottom of why you feel this way.
A life coach can help cut through the noise, dig deep and point out the underlying problems and struggles that have been running your entire life without you even knowing it.
With the right coach, you can identify and eliminate the root causes of stress, anxiety, and depression and move towards a life where the dominant emotions that you experience every day are joy, growth, and accomplishment.
And in case you are wondering… Yes, there are real people who live almost every day of their life exactly like I just described.
And if you’re thinking otherwise, then you need to recognize that this is your own negative mindset (likely fueled by anxiety, stress, or depression) that is creeping in and trying to keep you where you are.
A coach isn’t a cure-all, you’re right. We aren’t miracle workers. But the right coach can help you figure out what’s really going on beneath the surface. They can help you overcome past traumas and accept your current reality so that you can live each day with power, joy, and peace instead of wallowing in self-pity and sabotaging every chance of success that you have.
6. You Want to Shorten Your Learning Curve and Achieve Success Faster
Maybe life is good, you have a vision, and you are on the path to realizing it. Great!
If this is the case then a life coach can help you achieve your vision faster by shortening your learning curve and helping you growth hack your path to success. Billionaires and the world’s best athletes agree that having a coach is a good idea even though they are already at the top of their game, so why not you?
Did you know that most high achievers are only running at about 70% capacity?
Sure, they have the foundations figured out and they are ahead of 99% of the population, but they are missing out on the 2-millimeter shifts that can 10X your results and help you achieve your goals in half the time that you would otherwise spend.
Using a coach is a tool that will help you get to your destination faster than you ever thought possible.
Just consider a few of the following statistics.
- 80% of life coaching clients claim that they increased their confidence
- 73% measurably improved their relationships
- 72% improved their communication skills.
- 67% improved their work-life balance
As long as you are working with the right professional, life coaching will help you get results.
The only question is… Is it worth it?
To answer this question, I want you to consider the following.
If you had to go from Los Angeles to New York City would you rather go it alone and “work hard” and march on by foot or just buy a plane ticket (a tool) to help you get there faster. A coach is an investment in yourself to help you get results faster and for most – those results more than pay for the coaching itself.
When you have the right life coach, you can quickly identify and stop potential obstacles before they happen, you can figure out how to get more done in a month than most people accomplish in a year, and you will uncover how you can leverage your inherent strengths to accelerate your results and live a truly incredible life.
7. You are a Serial Procrastinator
If you constantly find yourself cramming for tasks the day before the deadline, putting off things that are important or struggling to make moves towards your goals until the last possible minute, then a life coach could be the best solution to your procrastination.
By enlisting the help of a life coach, you can set up heavy levels of accountability in your life so that you cannot procrastinate, so that you can’t put tasks off, and so that you can’t b.s. yourself or anyone else with the old excuse “I didn’t have enough time” any longer.
You will shift your “shoulds” into “musts” which changes the entire game. Now you’re ready to crush it!
With the help of a life coach, you can beat procrastination where it lives and finally take action towards the life you’ve always wanted. Not tomorrow… Today!
8. You Can’t Afford a Life Coach
If you are truly struggling and can’t afford to put groceries on your table then you don’t need to go and hire a life coach. Read some books and watch some youtube videos teaching you about success.
But if you’ve tried that already and you identify with any of the previous points in this article and your first thought is “I want a coach but I probably can’t afford a life coach”, then you likely need a life coach more than anyone else!
Here’s what I mean.
Imagine that you are horrible at playing the guitar. You’ve read all the books, watched all the videos, and even tried the fancy new apps. But nothing has worked.
If you are committed to becoming a better guitar player, you are going to hire an experienced guitar instructor (who has proven results with dozens of other students) who can help you shorten your learning curve and achieve the results that you desire.
In fact, this might be the only way to achieve the levels of success that you desire.
And it’s no different in life.
I understand that many people have genuine financial struggles and if that’s you then I’m not speaking to you. I’m talking about those of you in the audience who don’t think that you can afford a life coach.
I speak with potential clients all the time who say “Andrew, I love what you’re doing but I just can’t afford it right now”.
Yet, these are the same people who wear $200 sneakers, spend $500 a month going out, and waste more than $300 every month on cable, video games, useless digital subscriptions and are waiting outside of an Apple store for hours to buy a new phone.
If you make enough money to cover your basic expenses and believe that you can’t afford a life coach, I want to challenge you to look at your values.
Do you value fashion, entertainment, and comfort? Or do you value growth, achievement, and living life to the fullest.
Because if you value the latter… You would greatly benefit from working with a life coach.
They can help you develop a better understanding of money and business so that you can increase your income and have the financial freedom that you desire so that you never have to say the words “I can’t afford that” ever again.
The most prolific and successful individuals in the world get a life coach to go from good to great, so why wouldn’t you?
The highest achievers know that they can’t do the journey alone. They know that they need accountability, guidance, and an outside perspective to achieve their wildest dreams and aspirations.
It’s time to step up to the plate and stop playing small. If you need someone to hold you accountable, push you towards your greatness, and help you identify your blind spots, then it’s time to invest in yourself, hire a life coach and step into your greatness.
It’s not going to be easy, but it will be worth it.
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